“I had a very close friend who went through a long stretch of hard times. I stuck by her for years, but when her emotional distress peaked, I sought help from others, which she felt was disloyal. She stopped communicating with me and for many months there was silence. It was a strategy that was part of an illness, I knew, yet when she finally asked to reconnect because she missed our friendship, I childishly laid on her my anger and hurt at having been dismissed, demanding an apology. In the end, I led us right back to silence rather than toward reconciliation. Now, with our friendship solidly over, I wish I had reached out my hand rather than reopening wounds.
A painful lesson in failing to let go.”
Jennifer S Holland, Author
Author of the New York Times Bestselling Unlikely Friendships series, National Geographic contributor